Despite grief being an emotional experience that we all share, awareness of it continues to be lacking. Certain types of grief are stigmatized or taboo to talk about. Other types of grief may be so large and painful that, when we see someone going through it, we feel helpless – we don’t know what to say.

August 30th is Grief Awareness Day. We’d like to take the opportunity to spread important information about grief, including how it affects us, what it can look like, and how to offer support to someone who’s going through it.

What are the different types of grief?

You may not have known that there are many different types of grief, which means that grief can look a multitude of different ways. Many people are familiar with typical grief, but sometimes, grief doesn’t look like you’d expect.

Officially, some experts say there are 3 types of grief (typical, complicated, and anticipatory) while others list 5 (the aforementioned 2, as well as acute grief and disenfranchised grief). Mental health experts also discuss traumatic grief, which is a type of complicated grief.

Here, we’re going over each of these 6 types of grief and how they can show up.

Typical grief

Typical grief, often called “normal” or “common” grief, is what most people think of when they hear the word “grief.” It’s the emotional response that follows a significant loss, usually the death of a loved one. This type of grief is marked by a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, confusion, and even relief, depending on the circumstances. These feelings might come and go, or they may persist for weeks or months as you adjust to life without the person you’ve lost.

However, it’s important to note that while this type of grief is often labeled “normal,” there’s really no single “normal” way to grieve. Everyone’s experience with grief is unique, and there’s no set timeline for how long it should last or what it should look like. The idea of “normal” grief can be misleading, as it implies that other forms of grief are somehow less valid or expected. In reality, all types of grief are “normal” responses to loss — each person grieves in their own way and at their own pace.

Complicated grief

Complicated grief is when the feelings of grief are intense, long-lasting, and disruptive to your daily life. Unlike typical grief, which tends to diminish (albeit slowly) over time, complicated grief persists and can even get worse. This type of grief can get in the way of your ability to function in everyday activities, which can leave you feeling stuck and unable to move forward.

For example, someone experiencing complicated grief might find themselves unable to return to work or engage in their regular activities months after a loss. They may be consumed by thoughts of the person they lost, struggle with intense longing, or even start to feel like life is meaningless without their loved one. This overwhelming grief often requires professional support to help you process and manage the emotions. That doesn’t mean that complicated grief is “wrong” or a mental illness – just that you might need some extra support.

Anticipatory grief

Anticipatory grief hits you before a loss actually happens, typically when you know that a significant loss is coming, like a terminal illness diagnosis. This type of grief allows you to start processing the impending loss in advance, which can sometimes help with the adjustment afterward. However, it can also be an emotional rollercoaster, because you might experience grief in waves while the person is still alive.

For example, if your partner has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, you might begin to grieve the loss of your future together before they even die. You might feel a mix of sadness, fear, and even guilt for grieving while they’re still alive. This type of grief can be very complex to deal with, and it can get difficult to grieve while you’re still providing care for your loved one.

Acute grief

Acute grief is the intense, immediate reaction to a loss, often experienced in the first days and weeks afterward. This type of grief is characterized by shock, disbelief, and a deep emotional pain that can feel overwhelming. Acute grief is a normal part of the grieving process, but it can be incredibly difficult to navigate as you’re suddenly confronted with the reality of your loss.

For example, after receiving the news of a sudden death, you might feel numb or disoriented, or even be in denial about what happened. You could also experience physical symptoms like trouble sleeping, loss of appetite, or fatigue. Acute grief is often the rawest form of grief, but it typically begins to lessen as you start to process your emotions and adapt to your new reality.

Disenfranchised grief

Disenfranchised grief is a type of grief that isn’t openly acknowledged, socially accepted, or publicly mourned. This can happen when the loss is seen as less significant or when societal norms dictate that your grief isn’t valid. It can also happen when you feel like you’re not allowed to express your love or grief openly. As a result, you might feel isolated or unsupported in your grief because others don’t recognize it as legitimate.

An example of disenfranchised grief could be the loss of a pet, a miscarriage, or the end of a relationship that others didn’t see as serious. People who were in relationships that were kept secret can also experience disenfranchised grief. After these losses, people might downplay your grief or tell you to “move on,” which can make it much harder for you to process and heal. This type of grief can be particularly painful because it often leaves you feeling like you have to hide your emotions.

Traumatic grief

Traumatic grief is a type of complicated grief that can happen when the loss is sudden, violent, or unexpected. This type of grief is often accompanied by symptoms of trauma, including flashbacks, nightmares, and severe anxiety. The combination of grief and trauma can make this type of grief extremely challenging, and it can sometimes lead to long-term psychological distress.

For example, losing a loved one in a car accident or to a violent crime can lead to traumatic grief. You might find yourself reliving the events surrounding the death or feeling an intense fear that something similar could happen again. The trauma aspect of this grief can complicate the healing process, and you may need professional support to get through it.

How to support someone who is grieving

Most of us aren’t aware of the different ways grief can present. When someone you know has experienced a loss, you might offer your condolences – but how can you truly support them emotionally? And how can you express your empathy when their grief is more complicated or acute?

Here are some tips.

1. Listen without judgment: Sometimes, the best support you can offer is a listening ear. Allow the person to share their feelings and experiences without interrupting or offering solutions. Just being present can be incredibly comforting.
2. Validate their feelings: Acknowledge that their grief is real and significant, no matter what form it takes. This is especially important if they are experiencing disenfranchised grief, where their loss might not be openly recognized or supported by others. Let them know that it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.
3. Normalize their experience: Remind them that grief is a natural response to loss and that there’s no “right” way to grieve. Whether they’re feeling angry, numb, or devastated — all of these emotions are valid. Emphasize that everyone’s grieving process is unique.
4. Encourage professional support: Let them know that it’s okay to seek help from a therapist or counselor. Grief can be overwhelming, and professional support can provide tools and strategies to navigate the healing process. Normalize the idea that going to therapy is a healthy way to process grief — we don’t have to go through it alone.
5. Offer practical help: Sometimes, grief can make it hard to manage everyday tasks. Offering to help with meals, errands, or childcare can alleviate some of the burden. This allows them to focus on their emotional well-being without the added stress of daily responsibilities.

Grief is one of the many things that your MINES Employee Assistance Program (EAP) can support you with. Give us a call – our licensed providers offer free and confidential counseling for grief and many other life situations you may be experiencing.

To your wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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In today’s blog, we talk about the impact that talking about these issues openly can have in your organization and beyond.

Here are 5 reasons why celebrating and honoring Pride Month at work matters, and the benefits of doing so.

It demonstrates inclusivity with action, not just talk

The most important reason why celebrating Pride Month at work matters is that it builds workplace inclusivity. Most organizations claim to value diversity, inclusion, and belonging in their workplace — but it’s important to make sure that you’re demonstrating these values through tangible action.

When you celebrate Pride, you loudly and visibly uplift your LGBTQ+ employees. You go from just stating that you value inclusivity to actually showing it to the people who are affected by these issues.

It also sends the message to all employees, not only those in the LGBTQ+ community, that you are committed to building an inclusive workplace. This lets all employees know that homophobia, racism, and other types of discrimination are not tolerated and that every person will be valued regardless of their identity.

It builds safety

Building a psychologically safe workplace is a top concern for most workplace leaders. A psychologically safe workplace is one in which people from all backgrounds and identities feel comfortable taking risks, sharing ideas, and admitting mistakes without fear of negative consequences or humiliation.

In a psychologically safe environment, employees are more likely to feel free to be their complete and authentic selves. It’s about fostering a space where everyone feels valued and respected for their unique contributions, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, or any other aspect of their identity.

By celebrating Pride Month at work, you can help employees in the LGBTQ2SIA+ community feel like they can be their full selves. They don’t need to separate or compartmentalize their gender or sexual identity from who they are at work — they will be celebrated and appreciated for every part of who they are.

It is an opportunity for education

For employees who are not members of the LGBTQ2SIA+ community, Pride Month can serve as an opportunity for education. Learning about the history of Pride, the important contributions of LGBTQ people, and the injustices that the community continues to face today may help lower hateful attitudes and discrimination. Research has shown that education can significantly lower homophobia.

Consider inviting LGBTQ2SIA+ speakers to deliver workshops for employees on different issues that affect the community. You can also host a book club, watch documentaries together, or incentivize employees to attend Pride and educational events outside of the workplace.

Some organizations invite LGBTQ+ employees to work on projects that help educate the rest of the staff. But remember, any participation in these types of projects should never be obligatory and should always be compensated fairly.

It normalizes acceptance

By celebrating Pride Month, you set a standard of acceptance for the rest of the year. It sets the expectation that you are a safe workplace that does not condone bullying and that your organization strives to be an ally to the LGBTQ2SIA+ community. Opening conversations about identity and diversity becomes normalized, and people feel safer to do so even after Pride Month is over.

Just as importantly as normalizing acceptance within your own organization, celebrating Pride Month can set a better standard for other organizations as well. When other organizations see you speaking or posting publicly about Pride Month and LGBTQ+ rights, they may feel more motivated to do the same. Your organization can be a leader in acceptance and inclusivity and set a good example.

It is a chance to connect with the local community

Lastly, celebrating Pride Month can be an opportunity to connect with your local LGBTQ+ community. Most metropolitan areas have community LGBTQ+ centers or activism groups. Many hold local Pride celebrations, including marches, parades, and other events.

Incentivize your employees to attend these events and connect to their local LGBTQ+ community. You might even consider inviting some local community members to come and speak with your team members. In this way, you can build stronger ties with the local community where your organization is located and form an allyship with LGBTQS2IA+ people in your area.

How to celebrate Pride Month in the workplace

There are so many ways to celebrate Pride Month in your workplace. Avoid “rainbow-washing”, or performative gestures that lack meaning and impact (such as putting up a poster or changing your profile picture). It’s important that the ways in which your organization chooses to commemorate Pride Month are reflective of your genuine commitment to the rights of this community.

Our 2023 Pride Month blog post is full of ideas on how your organization can celebrate Pride Month in a meaningful way.

Some ideas include:

• Hosting an educational book club
• Inviting educational speakers
• Review your DEI policies
• Attend Pride celebrations together
• Donating or volunteering for the cause

Get LGBTQ+ affirmative counseling through your employee assistance program

MINES is dedicated to providing free and confidential LGBTQ+ affirmative during Pride Month and beyond. You can access your EAP counseling program 24/7 and speak with a licensed therapist at any time. In addition, we offer training options to help leaders become more inclusive.

Happy Pride Month from all of us here on the MINES team. Why does your organization celebrate Pride? Let us know in the comments.

To your wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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Today, we’re spreading awareness about self-harm, including the causes, warning signs, and tips to help a young person you love.

What is self-harm (non-suicidal self-injury)?

Self-harm is when someone intentionally hurts themselves physically. The clinical name for self-harm is non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI). Not every incident of someone hurting themselves falls under the umbrella of NSSI; some people hurt themselves because they are suicidal. Non-suicidal self-injury describes when someone hurts themselves

The most well-known method of non-suicidal self-injury is cutting, or when people make shallow cuts on their skin. But cutting is far from the only method; others harm themselves by:

• Biting skin
• Scratching themselves
• Hitting their head against a wall
• Punching themselves
• Pulling out hair
• Burning themselves with matches or cigarettes
• Poking objects through the skin

Young people – children, adolescents, and young adults – are at the highest risk of self-harm. Research shows that over 25% of teens aged 12 to 16 had thoughts of self-harm, with at least 15% acting on these thoughts. Unfortunately, studies have shown that self-harm rates among youth increase each year, with self-harm rates among girls increasing at an especially alarming rate.

However, it’s important to keep in mind that anyone can self-harm, including boys and older adults.

Why do people self-harm?

Self-harm is highly misunderstood; many people mistake self-harm as a form of suicidal behavior. However, self-harm, at least behaviors that fall within the umbrella of non-suicidal self-injury, is not an attempt to end one’s life.

People self-harm for various reasons. Some of the most common reasons include:

• To try to feel something when they feel emotionally numb
• To distract from emotional pain by causing physical pain
• To distract their mind from upsetting thoughts or memories
• To release powerful emotions like loneliness, despair, or anger
• To punish themselves for perceived faults, mistakes, or inadequacies
• To regain a sense of control over their life
• To try to cope with a difficult experience like bullying
• Because self-harm has been so normalized among their peers

Some people don’t know why, exactly, they self-harm. This is normal.

Even though self-harm itself isn’t a suicidal behavior, research shows that teens who have self-harmed are over 3 times more likely to attempt suicide in the future than those who have never self-harmed. Young people also often accidentally put themselves in life-threatening situations while self-harming (for example, by cutting themselves deeper than they intended). Self-harm is a sign that someone is in severe emotional distress, and needs to be taken seriously.

Warning signs of self-harm

One of the first steps to helping someone who self-harms is to notice the signs. When you educate yourself on the warning signs of self-harm, you’re more likely to realize when a loved one is engaging in it.

Self-harm doesn’t have a “look,” just like depression or anxiety don’t have looks. People of any gender or age can self-harm, but young people are at higher risk.

Here are some warning signs of self-harm in teens to look out for:

• Scars (cuts, scabs, bruises, or burns), often found in clusters or patterns
• Frequent unexplained wounds or cuts
• Making excuses for wounds or cuts
• Wearing long sleeves and pants, even when it’s hot out
• Traces of blood on clothes or towels
• Suddenly seeking to do their own laundry or take out their own trash
• Hiding razors
• Withdrawing from friends and family

If a young person you love is showing these signs, then it could be that they’re self-harming – and need your support.

How to help a young person who is self-harming move towards self-love

It can be unfathomable and intensely painful to learn that someone you love, especially a teen or a young adult, is hurting themselves intentionally. It’s devastating to realize that they don’t see themselves as you see them, and you wish you could do something to help them love themselves.

Recovery from self-harm can be a long journey. It becomes an addiction in many ways; it brings temporary relief from emotional pain, and even though the person knows that it’s not a long-term solution, it may be difficult to stop.

But just because they can’t quit right away doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything to support them. A trusted adult’s support is essential for young people as they learn to love themselves and treat themselves with care.

Here are some ways you can support the young person in your life who is self-harming.

• Approach them first. It can be hard for young people to bring up the conversation. If you suspect they are hurting themselves, don’t beat around the bush. Ask them directly: “I noticed cuts on your arms. Are you hurting yourself?”
• Don’t judge, even if you don’t understand. The last thing a young person needs to hear is, “Why would you do this to yourself?” Statements like this can come from a place of caring but also tend to make young people feel misunderstood and judged.
• Focus on their pain. Acknowledge how much they must be emotionally suffering to hurt themselves in this way. Validate their feelings. Even if something doesn’t feel like a big deal to you, it’s still a big deal to them.
• Make your home safe. If the teen lives with you and is using objects, like razors, to hurt themselves, work with them to limit access to these objects.
• Connect to resources. Talk to your pediatrician to get a referral to a mental health provider. You can also get in touch with your Employee Assistance Program for referrals or counseling.
• Provide unconditional love. Let the teen know that you don’t see them differently and that their self-harm behaviors don’t change your love for them. Make it clear that your concern for them comes from love, not from shame or disgust.

There is hope. With support from a trusted adult, young people can successfully stop self-harming and learn to love themselves.

Self-harm resources for teens and young adults

If you struggle with self-harm, here are some resources that can help.

• To Write Love On Her Arms is a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting people who struggle with self-injury, depression, and suicide.
• A.F.E. Alternatives is a treatment program for self-harm that also provides a wealth of information and resources.
• The Trevor Project provides phone, text, and chat support for LGBTQ+ young people facing self-injury and other mental health challenges.
• The Adolescent Self-Injury Foundation provides resources for teens and their caregivers.
• The Crisis Text Line operates 24/7.

If you (or someone else) are having a mental health emergency, dial 988.

MINES & Associates EAP is available to employees as well as their household members. All family members can receive 24/7 confidential counseling support for issues like depression, stress, and more. In addition, we provide 4 parental coaching sessions per year to teach you how to better support your teen or young adult who may be self-harming.

Take advantage of this free resource and get in touch with us today.

To Your Wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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March is National Nutrition Month, so we are going to talk about your brain. Trust me, it will make total sense. Over the last few years, I have been involved in and facilitated many conversations about mental health. It’s gratifying to be part of a movement where people are beginning to be comfortable speaking up about their own struggles and others are eager to learn how to recognize and support someone working through challenges.

As people gain awareness and build a mental health toolkit, it gets filled with practices to reduce and manage stress. Mindfulness, breathing, journaling, and therapy, all have a positive impact on mental health. Creativity and physical activity are both magical for our minds. Recognizing and regulating emotions is a valuable life skill and once developed will enhance mental wellbeing. Laughter and high-quality social interactions are easy ways to get a dopamine hit—and who doesn’t like that!?

Noticeably absent from the discussion, however, is the topic of food. I find this fascinating, as we like to talk about food all the time—what we should eat, what we shouldn’t eat, what we are going to eat, what we just ate, etc. Rarely are we talking about it in the context of mental health.

And yet, we have some kind of feeling about nearly every food (and beverage) choice we do or don’t make. Those feelings generate beliefs, which ultimately drive our actions. And throughout the entire cycle, there are multiple impacts on our mental health.

So let’s talk about it.

Food is:

• a friend who soothes and comforts you
• entertainment when you are bored
• a delicious distraction when you don’t want to deal with a situation in front of you
• an element that helps you relive fond experiences
• something that brings joy as you connect with culture or celebration
• a reward for doing something hard
• something you can’t live without

Food also:

• is an enemy who prevents you from being your best self
• can be an obstacle to reaching your goals
• alters decision-making capabilities
• brings on feelings of guilt and shame
• is an anxiety-inducing element of social engagements
• leads to punishing thoughts and behaviors
• is something you can’t stop thinking about

We each have a unique relationship with food, and it’s usually rather complex. Exploring, acknowledging, and adjusting yours will likely lead to enhanced mental health. What to eat, when to eat, how much to eat, and how we feel about what we eat—all are important pieces of the dietary puzzle. Most of us have never been taught the basics, which makes the complicated pieces impossible to sort out.

So let’s go basic.  Eat real food.

If, in theory, you could go outside and find, it’s real food that a human body recognizes and understands how to process. These foods grow in the ground and hang off bushes and trees. You can find real food swimming in water and roaming in a pasture. Real food can take a little bit of effort to get into edible form, but it’s fairly simple to determine how it came to be what you are about to ingest.

What does real food have to do with your mental health?  Everything.

Whole foods (WF) offer the raw materials your body uses to create cells, organ tissue, muscles, bones, hormones, neurotransmitters, protective layers, micro-organisms—-and everything else an optimally functioning human needs. The alternative, what I call “food-like substances” (FLS), offer little to no quality resources and instead supply your body with a variety of components it doesn’t need and cause it harm. If overall consumption of FLS is greater than consumption of WF the result could lean toward a less than optimally functioning human, maybe even one with various health conditions.

For many years I have been pitching PFF is Your BFF® (Protein Fat Fiber is your Best Friend Forever), as well as guiding individuals toward an understanding of how to fuel a human body. It’s impossible in the scope of this article to outline all the details, so here are a few highlights.

1. Steady blood sugar. It’s the key to your health and happiness—and maybe the health and happiness of people around you. When blood sugar drops, you might get irritated, frustrated, or find it difficult to concentrate. None of which is great for mental wellbeing. There’s a good chance you’ll reach for some version of sugar—and then beat yourself up for eating that sugar. And then eat more sugar to feel better about feeling bad for eating sugar. You know how this goes!
2. Protein, or more specifically the amino acids we get from consuming foods that have protein, are used to create hormones and neurotransmitters. These are the chemical messengers responsible for operating your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
3. Fat is your friend! Despite what we’ve been fed for decades, fat is not the devil. In fact, it is a key contributor to health and happiness. I don’t know about you, but back in the day when I was afraid to eat fat, I was hungry and irritated all the time. Turns out that wasn’t just my experience as we now have plenty of research to indicate that low-fat diets can increase the likelihood of depression, irritability, and anger. Dietary fats directly affect brain processes via transmission of signals and when you recognize that 70% of brain matter is made up of fat, it’s no wonder that low intake can cause dysregulation. Of course, the type of dietary fats matter. Eat real food, with a variety of sources of fat to nourish your noggin with essential fatty acids. Avoid the ultra-processed ones that often include some type of brain and body-damaging trans fat.
4. Fiber is, among other things, food for your gut bacteria. Referred to as the “second brain” the microbiome in the gut consists of communication pathways with every system in the body. There are direct links to gut imbalances and mental health and mood disorders. Fiber comes from plants, so eat plenty of them and a wide variety to offer your gut critters options for their feasting.
5. Have you ever heard of BDNF? Brain-derived neurotrophic factor is a chemical produced in the brain that supports overall cognitive function and mental wellbeing. It’s so powerful, that many consider it a natural anti-depressant and low levels may contribute to the onset of depression and anxiety. The raw materials for BDNF production need to be introduced to the body—via food. They include a variety of vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and polyphenol compounds found in real foods. In addition, insulin resistance, often the result of a habit of highly processed food consumption, prohibits the brain from producing BDNF. Another reason to minimize FLS choices!

The message seems pretty clear—eat real food. Yes, the puzzle can be complicated, but I believe if you take time to learn the basics and gain an appreciation for the powerful impact various types of fuel have on mental health, the harder stuff will be easier to digest. Food can either heal you or hurt you. It’s determining the appropriate balance of choices, and having a positive attitude about ALL the choices that leads to a healthy attitude, not only about your food, but life in general.

To Your Wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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This year, let’s all strive to take small steps to get closer and closer toward complete mental wellness. Here are 12 effective and easy-to-implement steps from MINES & Associates, a leading international psychology firm, and your Employee Assistance Program.

Tips to improve your mental well-being from your Employee Assistance Program

Here are 12 tips for 2024 to improve emotional and mental wellness – one for every month of the year. Make a commitment to choosing one to practice each month.

Tip #1: Reduce stress

Stress in short bursts is okay – but chronic stress – stress that sticks around over a long time – has countless health consequences and is a major barrier to mental wellness. Reducing your stress levels is one of the best things you can do for your overall health this year. What needs to change in your life for there to be less stress in your life? What boundaries may need to be set?

Tip #2: Practice relaxation

One of the best ways to reduce stress is to practice intentionally relaxing. You don’t need to be on a tropical beach with a drink in hand to relax. Relaxation is about activating a physiological response in your nervous system that counteracts the stress response. Strategies like deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation have been shown to promote your body’s relaxation response.

Tip #3: Stay active

If you have a fitness resolution this year, there’s good news – physical activity can also get you closer to emotional and mental wellness! Research shows that aerobic exercise is profoundly effective for combating depression and anxiety, and can help you reduce your stress levels as well. Every time you sweat it out, you’re getting closer to mental well-being.

Tip #4: Connect with others

You can boost your mental wellness simply by spending time with your closest loved ones. Research shows that social connection has many benefits for well-being, but the reverse is also true – loneliness can have significant negative effects. If you feel lonely, make it a goal this year to connect more. Join local groups, try a friendship “dating” app, or even find a support group.

Tip #5: Be generous

Positive psychology researchers have found that doing random acts of kindness can improve mental wellness and fill you with pleasant feelings. It doesn’t have to be a huge act of kindness, like donating a large amount of money – even simple things will do, like holding the door open for someone or visiting a grieving neighbor.

Tip #6: Schedule doing nothing

We make so many goals for ourselves that we forget it’s important to do nothing, too! Leisure time is critical to mental well-being. We all need time to simply recharge, free of the pressure to do anything at all. Consider scheduling blocks of “nothing time” into your calendar, and resist the temptation to use the time to do something productive.

Tip #7: Prioritize sleep

Sleep is essential to wellness in every way. Sleep helps your brain process and learn, and allows your body to rest. Research shows that sleep deprivation is linked to many mental health problems including depression and anxiety. Most healthy adults should strive to get 7 to 9 hours of restful sleep every night.

Tip #8: Find meaning through values

Having a purpose in life is an important component of mental wellness. But how do you live a meaningful life if it feels like your job – where you spend most of your time – doesn’t give you purpose? Try finding ways to connect your everyday tasks, like your job, to your deeper values. For example, perhaps you value family – and your job gives you the means to support your family. This can help you feel like your life is more purposeful.

Tip #9: Reflect on what you’re grateful for

You’ve probably heard the advice to “be more grateful.” This advice isn’t about toxic positivity – it’s not about forcing yourself to feel grateful for everything. It’s about intentionally shifting your focus on the positive things in your life. Try starting a gratitude journal, where you write down everything that makes you smile. Find a “gratitude buddy,” and share with each other the best parts of your days.

Tip #10: Spend time in nature

This year, try to commit to spending as much time in green spaces as possible. This can be tricky during the winter months if you live in Northern latitudes, but being surrounded by nature can have benefits for mental health and can also reduce stress. It’s okay if you don’t have access to large swaths of wilderness – even sitting on a bench in a city park can have benefits.

Tip #11: Belly laugh

Laughter can help you feel immediately better when you’re distressed. Research shows that humor and laughter have numerous benefits to wellness, including physical and mental health benefits. What makes you laugh so hard that your belly aches? Is it spending time with a particular loved one, or watching your favorite stand-up comedian? Whatever it is, prioritize laughing this year – intentionally schedule it into your to-do list.

Tip #12: Talk to a counselor

Lastly, we tend to think of mental health counseling and therapy as something we access when we’re already feeling unwell. But counseling could be the missing piece to your overall mental well-being. You don’t need to wait until you’re in a mental health crisis to start therapy – many people see therapists to deepen self-awareness, learn stress management skills, and improve their self-esteem.

If you are subscribed to MINES & Associates’ Employee Assistance Program (EAP), then counseling is a free 24/7 service that you have at your disposal.

We hope you choose to use your EAP this year – we’re looking forward to working with you on your wellness goals.

To Your Wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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But it’s possible to do things differently – to set goals in a way that helps you to actually achieve them.

In our last article of 2023, we’ll give you simple tips on how anyone can set realistic, achievable goals – and sustain long-term motivation so that you continue to take steps toward your resolutions all year long.

Why are goals important?

Research has found that setting goals is an important component of good mental health and overall well-being. Setting and reaching goals helps you stay motivated and uplifted in life. It can also help you reflect on where your life is headed and make changes when you need to. Going on to meet those goals can give you a sense of confidence and mastery.

Setting goals is especially important if you live with a mental health condition like depression or anxiety. When we set goals for recovery, we can measure each small step we take toward taking care of ourselves and overcoming mental health challenges.

But New Year’s isn’t the only time we can set goals. Goals are important all year round. The start of a new year can mark a great opportunity to start working toward a new goal, but you don’t need to wait until January 1st if inspiration strikes another time.

How to stay focused on your goals

There are simple changes you can make to help yourself stay focused on your goals throughout the year. Here are some helpful, easy tips that you can follow as you prepare to make resolutions for the new year.

Set clear goals

When goals are vague, it becomes difficult to measure whether or not you’re meeting or even making any progress toward them. For example, take the goal, “Improve my physical health” – one of the most common goals that people set. What, exactly, does it mean? How will you know whether you’ve met this goal, and exactly how much “improvement” is enough?

Avoid this confusion by setting clear, measurable goals. For example, instead of “Improve physical health,” think about exactly what you want to improve and how. Is it taking your prescribed medication every day? Going to the gym 3 times per week? Whatever it is, make it as specific as possible.

Tell people

Research has found that committing to your goals publicly – telling other people about them – makes you more likely to stay focused on them. It’s the accountability partner effect – when others know that you’re working toward a goal, you don’t want to let them down. It becomes about more than just you.

But be careful about who you tell. Accountability partners are only effective if you value their opinions. Choose your partners wisely, and tell people you respect about your goals.

Think about what you want, not what you don’t want

A 2020 study looked at what helped people stick to New Year’s resolutions. They found that people who had approach-oriented goals (trying to get closer to what they do want) rather than avoidance goals (trying to move away from what they don’t want) were more likely to be successful.

When you’re setting your resolutions, look toward what you want rather than what you don’t want. Stay away from goals that start with “stay away from” or “stop doing.” Reframe them to think about what it is that you do and what your life looks like.

For example, instead of “Stop drinking,” set a goal of “Call my sponsor every time I want to have a drink.” Instead of “Stop mindless scrolling,” set your sights on “Spend at least 5 waking hours every day doing screen-free activities.”

Connect to your “why”

Motivational interviewing (MI) is an evidence-based counseling technique that was originally developed to help people overcome alcohol addiction. One of the core concepts in MI is ambivalence or the idea that we usually both want to change something and don’t want to change it at the same time.

For example, if your New Year’s resolution is to go to the gym, there are probably lots of reasons why you want to accomplish that – losing weight, increasing energy levels, and so on – but also lots of reasons why you don’t want to go, including a lack of energy and want to spend your time doing other things.

To overcome this ambivalence, it’s important to be aware of the reasons that it’s important for you to meet these goals. Think deeply; why is it important to you to go to the gym? What would improved health mean for your life? What’s the deeper reason why you chose this goal?

Ask for support

Lastly, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s challenging for any of us to meet all of our goals on our own. Asking for the support you need may mark the difference between being able to stay motivated toward your goals and letting them fall by the wayside.

Ask your friends to check in with you and encourage you to take steps. Be specific about how they can help you; for example, do you need someone to go to the gym with you? Do you need a sober friend to hang out with when you feel tempted to drink?

In addition, a professional counselor can help you stay focused on your goals by:

• Helping you identify triggers that lead you to stray from your goals
• Equipping you with coping tools to overcome those triggers
• Providing a safe and therapeutic space to explore the inspiration behind these goals
• Addressing any underlying mental health issues that could get in your way

Employee support and well-being with MINES

MINES has free and confidential counseling available to you 24/7. We’ve been offering unparalleled expertise in the area of business programs and employee psychology for 43 years – and 2024 will be no different.

We look forward to continuing to work together to support your organizational and personal wellness.

To Your Wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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Around 4.8% of adults in the U.S. experience serious suicidal thoughts. Tragically, suicide is the second-leading cause of death for children aged 10 to 14; it’s the 3rd leading cause of death for young people aged 15 to 24, and the 12th leading cause of death overall.

It’s clear that suicide is a very serious and growing public health crisis that’s taking lives. But there is something that we all can do to help promote awareness and prevent suicide. This is especially true in the workplace, considering most people who die by suicide are of working age. Employee wellbeing is a cornerstone focus for the team at Mines and Associates.

In today’s MINES blog, we’ll talk in-depth about the topic of suicide, including what you can do to help.

If you’re having serious suicidal thoughts or are thinking of ending your life, there is crisis support available to you. You can dial or text 988, open an online chat with the National Lifeline, text hello to 741741, or visit your nearest emergency room.

Do you know the warning signs of suicide?

One of the most powerful ways to help prevent suicide is to learn how to recognize the warning signs that someone might be feeling suicidal. When you’re able to recognize that someone needs support, whether that be the mental wellbeing of an employee or a friend, you’re more likely to be able to help them in a timely manner.

According to the American Society for Suicide Prevention, most people who die by suicide do show at least one sign that they’re having suicidal thoughts. These warning signs are especially important to pay attention to if they’re paired with a stressful event or sudden change in the person’s life – something like a divorce, job loss, and so on.

Some of the most commonly seen warning signs for suicide include:

• Behavioral changes: You may notice sudden and unexplained shifts in behavior, like withdrawal from social interactions and isolating oneself.
• Talking about death: People who are thinking of suicide often talk a lot about feeling hopeless, wishing they were dead, or not having a reason to live. Take these things very seriously.
• Performance decline: At work, you might notice a sudden drop in performance or productivity.
• Mood swings: The person might have frequent mood swings or get irritable more easily.
• Hopelessness: Listen for expressions of hopelessness, helplessness, or feelings of being trapped.
• Searching methods of suicide: You might find out that someone has been searching for methods to end their lives or trying to gain access to a weapon. This should be taken very seriously.
• Self-criticism: Be aware of increased self-criticism or negative self-talk.
• Giving away possessions: Watch for signs of giving away personal belongings or making final arrangements.
• Saying goodbye: Be alert if someone says goodbye in a way that sounds final or unusual.
• Increased substance use: Notice an increase in alcohol or drug consumption.
• Reckless behavior: Pay attention to engaging in risky or reckless behavior without concern for consequences.

What to do to help someone who may be thinking about suicide

If you’re concerned that someone in your life is thinking of ending their life, then it’s important to act as quickly as possible. The wellbeing of employees and friends alike is very important to pay attention to. When people feel listened to and supported without judgment, they tend to feel less hopeless and overwhelmed. You can be the one to help and support a suicidal person in this way. In general, you can follow these 5 actions for suicide prevention suggested by the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline:

1. Ask the person about how they’re feeling. Don’t be afraid to ask them directly if they’ve been thinking about taking their own life. Despite common misconceptions, asking people directly about suicide can actually decrease, not increase, suicidal ideation.
2. Talk to the person and listen to them with empathy. Your simple presence can make a huge difference. Check-in with the person regularly and make sure they know you’re there for them and that they matter to you.
3. People without access to lethal means (like a firearm) are much less likely to die by suicide. Take necessary actions to keep the person physically safe. For example, you might ask them if you could store their firearm or drugs for them until they’re feeling more hopeful.
4. Connect them to helpful resources. Stay with the person while they call one of the crisis resources above. Go with them to an emergency room or crisis center. Help them get in touch with their therapist. Treat the situation like the life-threatening emergency that it is.
5. Follow up with the person continuously, especially after they’ve been discharged from a hospital or another type of treatment. Don’t forget about them after the immediate crisis passes.

Suicide prevention at work: What role do employers play?

Most working-age adults spend many of their waking hours in the workplace. This means that employers have an enormous responsibility – and opportunity – to create a priority for mental health and actively support suicide prevention through employee wellbeing initiatives.

Here are some actions that employers can take. This Suicide Awareness Month, take a look at your workplace policies and culture and consider what may need to be improved.

• Raise awareness. Educate employees about available mental health resources, including hotlines, support groups, and online platforms. This information should be easily accessible and openly discussed.
• Destigmatize Mental Health Conversations. Encourage open dialogue about mental health to break down stigmas. Training sessions or workshops can help managers and employees navigate these conversations appropriately. Lead by example, and talk about your own mental health as well.
• Offer flexible work arrangements. Recognize that mental health struggles can impact your employees’ ability to work consistently. Providing flexible schedules or remote work options can alleviate stress and promote work-life balance.
• Develop comprehensive mental health policies that include guidelines for addressing concerns, accommodations, and resources. Ensure these policies are communicated clearly to all employees for their wellbeing and workplace success.
• Offer mental health training for managers and supervisors to recognize the warning signs of suicide (and other mental health concerns) and respond effectively.
• Develop a clear crisis response plan that outlines steps to take in case of a mental health emergency. This can help ensure a fast and appropriate response when an employee is in need.
• Promote an overall supportive work environment. Cultivate a workplace culture that values well-being. Recognize achievements, encourage breaks, and discourage overworking.
• Consider partnering with mental health organizations. Collaborate with local mental health organizations to access resources, training, and support for employees.

Lastly, your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is a mental health resource that’s always at your disposal. The MINES & Associates EAP offers free and confidential counseling 24/7 to all of our members. Our team is staffed by doctoral-level psychologists, clinical social workers, and masters-level therapists who can provide help and support for an employee who may be in need. Employee wellbeing is important for the greater good in all of society.

To learn more, get in touch with us!

To Your Wellbeing,

The MINES Team

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